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Jules Hirst, Etiquette Expert

Who Needs A Wedding Planner — I Do!

Wedding Planner and Bride Every little girl dreams about their wedding day. They spend time planning all the details and acting it out. It’s a fun time. However, planning the real thing isn’t always that fun. Most brides have to juggle the demands of their work and their relationship at the same time as planning the wedding. There are only so many hours in a day and the stress from all of this can be too much for some couples. To help resolve this issue, why not hire a wedding planner? A wedding planner is an additional cost that you probably weren’t planning on, but weigh the cost against the benefits described herein and see if it might be something that could benefit you.

 

The wedding planner can help you with the design of your wedding, the style of the wedding and, most importantly, the budget for the wedding. The wedding planner also has a network of venders who they have worked with in the past and consider reliable. These vendors can help bring to life the style you want and work within your budget. They will also save you the time of searching all over town for reliable vendors and you will have to schedule less meetings to pick your vendors.

 

Planning a wedding involves a great deal of logistics. There are the events of the ceremony. There are the events of the reception. There are seating charts. There are save the date cards and invitations and knowing when to mail all of these. There are wedding favors that need to be designed and ordered and picked up. There are also all of the contracts from your vendors and making sure they know the timelines and you know when the money is due. It is the job of your wedding planner to handle all of these details for you. The wedding planner won’t make the decisions for you – that’s your job. However, once you’ve made the decision it is the wedding planner’s job to make sure it gets done and done correctly.

 

Finally, when families get together for the big day there are bound to be someDon's stress out on your wedding day issues that arise. Your wedding planner gets to deal with these. The wedding planner gets to be the “bad guy” and you get to enjoy your day.

 

Most wedding planners have different packages that you can select from, including a ‘day of’ package where they will only be available for the rehearsal and wedding day events. If the cost of a full package is prohibitive to your budget, consider a ‘day of’ package. It is your wedding day and you should be able to enjoy every minute of it without aggravation.

 

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Wedding Gift Etiquette: When the gifts last longer than the marriage

 Celebrity weddings rarely last and the latest attempt has come to an abrupt end. It is sad to say that Kim Kardashian has filed for divorce from her husband, Kris Humphries, after only 72 days of marriage. With a wedding that was reported to cost $10 million and had a two-night cable special, it has lead many people to wonder if this was a charade for ratings and money. Whether it was or not, 72 days of marriage is not a long time and it leads to another question. What happens to the wedding gifts?

 

Many guests will feel upset or cheated if the gifts are not returned because they spent their hard earned money to buy the gift and the wedding was short-lived. Common etiquette says that any wedding gifts should be returned if the wedding is called off prior to the ceremony or if the marriage ends shortly thereafter. There are a few situations to deal with. All unused gifts should be returned. Any gifts that were monogrammed or personalized should not be returned because it is almost impossible for the giver to return them. Also, used gifts like bedding should not be returned. Common etiquette says in the case of a nonreturnable gift, it is proper to ask the giver if they would like the item back or offer to reimburse them for the cost. With any gift that is returned, a note should be enclosed thanking the person for their generosity but they regretfully cannot keep it because the marriage did not work out.

 

Kim Kardashian has announced that she will not be returning the gifts because they were given out of love. However, she has offered to make a $200k donation to her favorite charity. So now she gets to keep the gifts and receives a tax write-off. Apparently celebrity weddings end better as well.

 

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Trick or Treat Etiquette

Trick or Treat Etiquette Halloween is an evening  when a  child can dress up and be  whoever they  want, but no matter who  your child wants to  be don’t forget  to take your trick or treat  etiquette with you.  Here is a list of Do’s  and Don’ts to remember:

For Givers:

If you are planning on giving out candy do leave your porch light on.  Leaving the light on signifies that you are in the trick-or-treat business.

 

Giving out fruit, box of raisins or homemade treats, although done with the best intentions, is not a good idea.  Parents are more than likely to throw away anything that is handmade and/or open, plus kids are there for candy.

Trick or Treaters:

Only go to the homes with the porch light on.  Knock or ring the doorbell once and stand back.

 

Do say trick or treat.  Unless your costume is deer in the headlights, don’t stand there with your bag open with a blank stare.

 

Only take one to two pieces of candy and remember to say “thank you” and never say “I don’t like that”.

 

Stay on the sidewalk and off the grass and flowerbeds.

 

If you still don’t have a costume Here are some ideas for no-sew Halloween costumes.

 

If you are the hostess with mostess tonight here are some ideas for easy Halloween treats

 

Don’t let poor etiquette take away the fun on this All Hallows Eve.

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Is Black the new White in Wedding Gowns?

 After Vera Wang’s fall 2012 Bridal Show she will have us wondering “is Black the new White ” in wedding gowns.  Here is what the New York Times said…..

AFTER a season of high-profile weddings, beginning with Kate Middleton’s royal affair and culminating with Kim Kardashian’s blowout, could bridal designers be experiencing white-dress fatigue?

 

For her fall 2012 bridal show this month, Vera Wang, who designed Ms. Kardashian’s wedding dress and those of countless other famous brides, sent a flock of black wedding dresses down the runway. “I found black to be fresh and tongue-in-cheek,” Ms. Wang said in a telephone interview. “With all the big weddings that happened this year, it was fun to step out of the box.”

 

Ms. Wang, who has been in the bridal business for nearly 22 years, has dabbled in purple, pale green and dusky neutrals in past bridal collections, but never in a palette this outré. In an industry that is as tradition-bound as this one, and given Ms. Wang’s reputation as a setter of trends — wedding attire as ready-to-wear; gowns with swirls of ruffles (see Chelsea Clinton) — the collection caused quite a front-row stir.

 

“It was shocking and outrageous, but it was also fabulous,” said Mark Ingram, the owner of the Mark Ingram Bridal Atelier in Manhattan. “It was bold, but it also made me pay attention to the details all that more carefully.”

 

Ms. Wang balanced her inky palette with sheer layering on bodices and skirts. She drew on lingerie motifs with exposed corsets, and added insets of frothy gray tulle. Even so, the looks were far from sweet and virginal; they were almost gothic.

 

“I did take it to a witchy kind of place,” she admitted. “For me, it helped build a sense of mystery that I was hungry for. And it added this sensuality and sexuality, and a little bit of severity, too.”

 

Ms. Wang, who has the safety net of a more traditional and accessible line for the David’s Bridal chain, designed the collection while she was in Los Angeles, far from her New York headquarters. The distance, she said, had freed up her perspective, allowing her to explore novel ways for black to read “wedding day.” Not that the noirish hue would be all that strange at her home base. (“No matter what people say, black is very associated with New York,” she said.) But the collection had personal resonance as well.

 

“I wore white on my wedding day,” Ms. Wang said. “I was very frustrated, it being so traditional at the time, but the bridal industry wasn’t so evolved back then.”

 

Conventional etiquette would still say that a bride (and no one else) should be in white at a wedding.

 

“The bride who chooses the black dress does not care about etiquette,” said Jung Lee, a founder of Fête, an event-planning company in Manhattan. Ms. Lee advises brides on the intricacies of everything from invitations to attire. “That’s not to say she doesn’t have manners,” she said, “but it’s certainly not etiquette. My advice is that she really think about it, and not just in the short term. Think how the pictures would look 10, 20 years from now. A bride in black will draw more attention than one in white or ivory. You have to be prepared for that.”

 

In the celebrity-saturated context of the times, the black wedding dress may herald a new phenomenon: the wedding aisle as red carpet. Ms. Wang’s darkly romantic wedding gowns would be equally at home at an important awards show. And for many brides, the wedding day (the expensive gown, makeup and accessories) is the closest thing to a red-carpet ritual. Is it that much of a stretch to say that the celebrity experience has become the modern-day fairy tale?

Source: The New York Times
Written By: Bee-Shyuan Chang
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Things to do in Los Angeles: dineLA is back, but don’t forget your Manners.

Hey, Angelenos.  Have you ever dreamed about dining at Spago?  How about sampling the sushi at Nobu?  Fighting the paparazzi as you prepare to eat at BOA Steakhouse in West Hollywood?  Now is your chance as dineLA restaurant week has returned.  Hundreds of local restaurants are offering specially priced three course meals for lunch or dinner, so why not go out and support your local restaurants and taste some of the food that makes Los Angeles one of the greatest places to eat in the world.  Make your reservations today.

 

While you’re out, don’t forget to bring your manners with you.  Dining etiquette is an often forgotten concept as people are more concerned with the instant gratification that comes from filling their hungry stomachs.  However, perception doesn’t stop at the dining table.  In fact, many companies test dining etiquette as one of the last steps in the interview process.  By using proper dining etiquette, you will look more professional and attain a self confidence that will benefit you in work and social settings and set you apart from the crowd.

 

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