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Jules Hirst, Etiquette Expert

10 Tips on How to “Talk Politics” When There is No Escaping it!

Politics in the Workplace

We should all know we never speak about “Pol­i­tics” at the din­ner table, at a gath­er­ing with fam­ily or friends, the office, but what are you to do when there is no escap­ing it. Here are 10 tips writ­ten by Diane Gotts­man of The Pro­to­col School of Texas.

1.  Allow the other per­son to state his or her opin­ion - Don’t inter­rupt – allow oth­ers to make their feel­ings heard.

2. Ask ques­tions – Even if you dis­agree with the com­ments of oth­ers, show respect by ask­ing per­ti­nent ques­tions. You may be sur­prised to learn some­thing new!

3.  Keep your voice down to a low roar- Don’t allow your­self to get worked up and start a shout­ing match with your cowork­ers or din­ner guests.

4. Edu­cate your­self on impor­tant issues – It’s impor­tant to at least be famil­iar with the beliefs and plat­form of each can­di­date to allow for knowl­edge­able dis­cus­sion. Remem­ber, being well-informed is always best!

5.  Don’t take it per­son­ally – Keep the dis­cus­sion in per­spec­tive and ask your­self how much anx­i­ety and con­flict you are will­ing to undergo at the office or with friends by argu­ing over who the bet­ter can­di­date may be. Never resort to name call­ing or shame tac­tics, “I can’t believe you are that ignorant!”

6.  Vote – it’s a cop-out to say, “I don’t like any of the can­di­dates so I’m not going to vote” – if you don’t vote for some­one, any­one, you have no room to complain.

7. Pol­i­tics is not off lim­its at a din­ner party or social event – be pre­pared! You can answer with “I’m off polit­i­cal debate duty tonight – argue amongst your­selves” and opt out or jump in and make your point. Do what feels right but always keep in mind you are a guest and don’t want to offend your host.

8. Keep it clean – Use your best judg­ment and keep your inter­ac­tions civil – you host will thank you for not incit­ing fur­ther furor among his or her guests.

9. Don’t assume that every­one wants to talk pol­i­tics – Ask­ing some­one how he or she intends to vote in the elec­tion is inva­sive unless the infor­ma­tion is offered first.

10.  Use your sen­si­tiv­ity train­ing – Be mind­ful of how you are mak­ing oth­ers feel by voic­ing your strong opin­ions and avoid monop­o­liz­ing the entire con­ver­sa­tion with pol­i­tics. Have other con­ver­sa­tion top­ics handy in your con­ver­sa­tional arse­nal to pull from when the con­ver­sa­tion is too heated.

A TITLE IS EARNED.… How to Address a Retired Lt Col

Fox News Channel’s The Five, co-host Bob Beckel expressed his dis­plea­sure with Rep­re­sen­ta­tive Allen West’s com­ments about the Democ­rats at the Lin­coln Day Din­ner. Mr. Beckel con­tin­u­ously referred to Rep­re­sen­ta­tive West as Mr. West while crit­i­ciz­ing his views. Co-host Eric Bowl­ing cor­rectly pointed out to Beckel that he should be refer­ring to Allen West as Rep­re­sen­ta­tive or Lt Col Allen West because he had earned both titles.

Here is what eti­quette states:

Although Rep­re­sen­ta­tive or Congressman/Congresswoman are not tra­di­tional hon­orific titles, they do express the person’s cur­rent posi­tion and can be used to refer to the person.

The for­mal form of Mr. (name) or Ms. (name) should be used when address­ing an enve­lope as shown below.

Enve­lope, offi­cial:
The Hon­or­able
(Full name)
United States House of Rep­re­sen­ta­tives
(Address)

The proper form for Lieu­tenant Colonel would be Lt Col with­out peri­ods. You do not need to use Retired unless you were address­ing an offi­cial enve­lope. In which case you should use “…

Clark­son, USAF Retired” or “…Clark­son, USAF Ret.”

See exam­ples below for the dif­fer­ences between an offi­cial enve­lope and a social envelope.

For­mal forms for an “offi­cial” enve­lope would be:
    Lieu­tenant Colonel Joe M. Clark­son, USAF, Retired
    and Mrs. Clark­son
     Address
For­mal forms for a “social” enve­lope would be:
    Lieu­tenant Colonel Joe M. Clark­son
     and Mrs. Clark­son
     Address

    Lt Col Joe M. Clark­son
     and Mrs. Clark­son
     Address

Whether you agree or dis­agree with some­one, you should show them the proper respect by refer­ring to them using the title(s) they have earned.

A Lesson in Social Etiquette: It is said that any publicity is good publicity.

Public Relations_Social EtiquetteIt is said that any pub­lic­ity is good pub­lic­ity. Appar­ently PR reps in NYC are try­ing to get pub­lic­ity for their events in cre­ative ways. They have asked blog­gers to post about their events after the fact and not hav­ing invited them to attend. Christo­pher Kouli­uris, a NYC social scene blog­ger for scallywagandvagabond.com, is appalled by this and has writ­ten an enter­tain­ing post on his blog about it. Check out the post and let me know your thoughts.

For those of you who are reg­u­lar read­ers of my (mis)adventures of carous­ing the NYC soci­ety set– you’ve prob­a­bly gone away with the impres­sion that I live some sort of glo­ri­ous glam­orous life. How wrong you all are, except for the occa­sional cock­tail, inspir­ing guest, cause or lin­ger­ing glance of some femme fatale who really should know bet­ter, can­vass­ing the NYC social land­scape as a reporter is a thank­less task.

Thank­less because of the demands imposed on keep­ing a tight jour­nal (which means whilst you all sleep coco pops away I’m up invent­ing clever drib­ble and upload­ing images after images of peo­ple who always seem to be too happy). But today I can tell you my task of being a soci­ety reporter has just become 17 notches more mis­er­able. Why you won­der? Because I want every pub­li­cist who has ever had the good idea to find me to scratch me off their go to media list take a few steps back. Not because I don’t like pub­li­cists (I like quite a few of you if you must know) but because of the cal­cu­lat­ing nature of the way some of you behave and the con­niv­ing games so many of you rel­ish in (but why?).

So let’s get to the meat of the mat­ter. In the space of 7 days I, this scoundrel, received no fewer than 117 10 soci­ety event invi­ta­tions as my capac­ity as a soci­ety reporter (what­ever soci­ety means any­more and what­ever it is us soci­ety reporters are sup­pose to do any­more blah!). Out of those I prob­a­bly I only both­ered attend­ing 3. Okay, so far we’re all happy. Now here’s where the jig comes in, dur­ing those same 7 days I also received 400 9 event post press releases with pro­pa­ganda jar­gon and accom­pa­ny­ing pic­tures, get ready to catch this– to events that I or the jour­nal wasn’t invited to but pas­sively expected to pub­lish regardless.

So let’s get this straight, I get invites to events and if I feel as pub­lisher we should cover them we do. But now not only am I get­ting the usual invites, I am now get­ting more non invites to events that I wasn’t invited to attend solely for the intent that some pub­li­cist can use me as a mar­ket­ing con­duit for their pay­ing client.

This of course gen­er­ally comes with a care­fully worded tip sheet (cause we all need to metaphor­i­cally know the client has a penis 78 times big­ger more cache than you and I could ever hope to have ) with select accom­pa­ny­ing pic­tures of mar­velously happy peo­ple. How they always man­age to be happy beats me, but then again who can really under­stand the aspi­ra­tions of most media whores? (milk the cam­era boy for as much pub­lic expo­sure then go on to hope­fully milk an appear­ance deal or at least self jus­ti­fied social standing).

Now if you were in my posi­tion how would you respond? Would you acqui­esce and just post said pro­pa­ganda pieces (and I know quite a few of you blog­gers that do, but I wont men­tion names this time, cause last time I embar­rassed you all gave me dirty looks for weeks to come, but you copy and paste blog­gers we all know who you are or would you do what I do which is stand up for yourself?

Now the polite thing would be to ignore the emails and just pay them offend­ing pub­li­cists no mind. But I am afraid as some of you have to come to find out, I don’t tol­er­ate bad form too well (espe­cially after one pub­li­cist had me uncer­e­mo­ni­ously thrown out of one event ear­lier this year and another threat­ened to sue me for exer­cis­ing my jour­nal­is­tic rights). And if I must I will gather you up and expose your treach­er­ous ways. Which reminds me about the phone call I received Sun­day night (8.09pm) from a cer­tain infa­mous paparazzo who I sev­ered ties with in early Octo­ber who threat­ened to beat the crap out of me (accord­ing to sources this is his usual way of intim­i­da­tion, never mind the taped mes­sages) if I went to press with a story doc­u­ment­ing his shady crash­ing ways that most pub­li­cists can tell you about and have emailed me about (paparazzo the story will be up soon– promise).

Which brings me to the above arbi­trary sam­ple from one pub­li­cist. Let’s all read it together:

photo taken from Scal­ly­wag & Vagabond

So please ladies and gen­tle­men of the pub­lic rela­tions world– start treat­ing us soci­ety reporters with respect, even allo­cate a por­tion of your bud­get for us to cover your event prod­uct place­ment (really that’s what it amounts to) and we too will give you a per­fect pr write up that your client can be proud of. Or on the other hand approach us with respect and ask us if this is some­thing we would con­sider writ­ing about, assum­ing it reflects one’s jour­nal edi­to­r­ial gambit.

source:Scallywag & Vagabond

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