A friend of mine recently went to a birthday brunch nothing extravagant, but, it was a birthday party so there were center pieces, thank giftsÂ and games.Â Â Â She also went on to sayÂ her heart went out to the birthday girlÂ as some of her guests lacked social skills.Â Kids were climbingÂ on tables, one child threw something at the birthday girls grandmother, another guestÂ sitting at the tableÂ was listing to music from his phone without headphones and another was listing to his ipod.Â Â With the holiday season right around the corner here are some things to remember to insure you will be invited to the next Soiree:
Parents, if you have small children no one has the right to tell you how your kids are to behave in your own home, Â however, when you are the guest please remember to remind your little ones the dos and don’ts when you are a guest.Â Â Remind them to have “Respect” for other people’s property, ask permission, if someone is speaking to you maintain eye contact , you get the picture.
It is not OK or cute for children to be pulling down on the centerpieces, they should not be standing on chairs, climbing on the table nor should you expect them to be to be treated as adults, if the hostess went through the trouble to have kid appropriate games and thank you gifts then that is what they get.Â But, most importantly watch your own children!Â Kids are kids they are going to test you it is the parents job to teach them boundaries.Â If you are not willing to set boundriesÂ do not be upsetÂ if a relativeÂ does.
When sitting at the table leave your ipods and cell phones in your pocket.Â Just because you do not like the music or your bored means you sit there listening toÂ your ipod or on the phone.
I would love to hear from.… Share your thoughts, etiquette faux pax stories or questions…Â Jul
Jul Hirst is an etiquette instructor based in Los Angeles, who believes it is never too late to make a lasting impression.Â She teaches classes for children, teens and adults.Â She is President of For A Jul Productions, a wedding and event planning company.Â Learn more at www.Forajulproductions.com.Â She also is head of Hearts For The City, a non-profit organization teaching etiquette and social skills to underprivileged children, foster children and people re-entering the workforce.