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10 Tips on How to “Talk Politics” When There is No Escaping it!

Politics in the Workplace

We should all know we never speak about “Pol­i­tics” at the din­ner table, at a gath­er­ing with fam­ily or friends, the office, but what are you to do when there is no escap­ing it. Here are 10 tips writ­ten by Diane Gotts­man of The Pro­to­col School of Texas.

1.  Allow the other per­son to state his or her opin­ion - Don’t inter­rupt – allow oth­ers to make their feel­ings heard.

2. Ask ques­tions – Even if you dis­agree with the com­ments of oth­ers, show respect by ask­ing per­ti­nent ques­tions. You may be sur­prised to learn some­thing new!

3.  Keep your voice down to a low roar- Don’t allow your­self to get worked up and start a shout­ing match with your cowork­ers or din­ner guests.

4. Edu­cate your­self on impor­tant issues – It’s impor­tant to at least be famil­iar with the beliefs and plat­form of each can­di­date to allow for knowl­edge­able dis­cus­sion. Remem­ber, being well-informed is always best!

5.  Don’t take it per­son­ally – Keep the dis­cus­sion in per­spec­tive and ask your­self how much anx­i­ety and con­flict you are will­ing to undergo at the office or with friends by argu­ing over who the bet­ter can­di­date may be. Never resort to name call­ing or shame tac­tics, “I can’t believe you are that ignorant!”

6.  Vote – it’s a cop-out to say, “I don’t like any of the can­di­dates so I’m not going to vote” – if you don’t vote for some­one, any­one, you have no room to complain.

7. Pol­i­tics is not off lim­its at a din­ner party or social event – be pre­pared! You can answer with “I’m off polit­i­cal debate duty tonight – argue amongst your­selves” and opt out or jump in and make your point. Do what feels right but always keep in mind you are a guest and don’t want to offend your host.

8. Keep it clean – Use your best judg­ment and keep your inter­ac­tions civil – you host will thank you for not incit­ing fur­ther furor among his or her guests.

9. Don’t assume that every­one wants to talk pol­i­tics – Ask­ing some­one how he or she intends to vote in the elec­tion is inva­sive unless the infor­ma­tion is offered first.

10.  Use your sen­si­tiv­ity train­ing – Be mind­ful of how you are mak­ing oth­ers feel by voic­ing your strong opin­ions and avoid monop­o­liz­ing the entire con­ver­sa­tion with pol­i­tics. Have other con­ver­sa­tion top­ics handy in your con­ver­sa­tional arse­nal to pull from when the con­ver­sa­tion is too heated.

Politics and Etiquette: Incivility in the Workplace and Congress

Here is a great arti­cle form the Boston Globe which dis­cusses inci­vil­ity in the work­place and Con­gress. What do you think? Is there a problem?

Olympia SnoweMaine Sen­a­tor Olympia Snowe is just the lat­est exam­ple in pol­i­tics and busi­ness to demon­strate the ugly effects of inci­vil­ity. She said last week that she is not going to seek another term in the US Congress.

The three-term Repub­li­can sen­a­tor did not make her deci­sion because she was fac­ing a dif­fi­cult reelec­tion bid. Instead, she blamed the intense and some­times destruc­tive par­ti­san­ship in Wash­ing­ton. That, in a nut­shell, is the prob­lem with inci­vil­ity. At a cer­tain point, peo­ple say, “No more. I don’t have to put up with caus­tic, vit­ri­olic, neg­a­tive behav­ior.’’ And they dis­en­gage, refuse to serve, quit their jobs.

It’s not just in pol­i­tics that inci­vil­ity causes a prob­lem. In busi­ness, it is costly to replace a worker. There’s down­time between when a per­son leaves and a qual­i­fied replace­ment is hired. There’s a learn­ing curve for the replacement.

While busi­nesses don’t expect to keep a worker from leav­ing for a good rea­son — a bet­ter posi­tion, a relo­ca­tion — good busi­nesses ensure that employ­ees don’t leave for pre­ventable rea­sons. When a per­son leaves because of inci­vil­ity, that’s preventable.

And it should be unac­cept­able to the Amer­i­can pub­lic. I can accept any elected official’s deci­sion to return to pri­vate life; what is unac­cept­able to me is a res­ig­na­tion caused by the atmos­phere in Con­gress. The atmos­phere of the past few years is reflected in Con­gress’ steadily declin­ing approval rat­ing, which hit a record low of 11 per­cent in Decem­ber 2011. It is time to demand civil behav­ior from Congress.

Rude­ness and inci­vil­ity in the work­place — and Con­gress — are pre­ventable. Pre­ven­tion begins by chang­ing the work­place cul­ture and that means change must be embraced from the top down. That change is grounded in three pow­er­ful prin­ci­ples that should gov­ern inter­ac­tions in the work­place: be con­sid­er­ate, be respect­ful, and be honest.

It’s time for con­gres­sional lead­ers to rec­og­nize that the cur­rent cul­ture is toxic and to take respon­si­bil­ity for restor­ing civil­ity in the House and Senate.

Source:Boston Globe

Writ­ten By: Peter Post

Business Introductions: Who You Know

Business IntroductionsSuc­cess often boils down to who you know instead of what you know. In busi­ness, who you know are the con­tacts you make dur­ing your career and these con­tacts can be made in var­i­ous ways. Whether it is at an inter­view, a busi­ness meet­ing, a net­work­ing func­tion or even the super­mar­ket check­out lane, the intro­duc­tion cre­ates a last­ing impres­sion with the con­tact that can help open doors for you.

Proper busi­ness eti­quette for an intro­duc­tion is made up of four fun­da­men­tal skills.

  • Stand­ing Up
  • Smil­ing
  • Eye con­tact
  • Firm Hand­shake

When meet­ing some­one it is impor­tant to stand up. Ris­ing from the con­fer­ence table, your desk or the table at the restau­rant shows that you respect the other per­son and puts you on equal foot­ing for the begin­ning of your relationship.

Remem­ber that the intro­duc­tion is the first impres­sion the other per­son has of you, so you should always be smil­ing. Smil­ing presents a pos­i­tive image and atti­tude and fail­ing to smile can lead the other per­son to think you are unin­ter­ested in them.

Eye con­tact is another key com­po­nent of the intro­duc­tion. By mak­ing eye con­tact, you are focused on the other per­son and show them that you are interested.

A firm hand­shake is essen­tial to a pos­i­tive intro­duc­tion. It shows you are pro­fes­sional and con­fi­dent. To per­form a proper hand­shake, you should fit your hand into theirs to where the web­bing between your thumb and fore­fin­ger meet. Squeeze firmly and shake once or twice. If you have clammy hands, it is ok to sneak in a quick wipe to dry your hand before the hand­shake“ no one likes shak­ing a moist hand. You do not want your hand­shake to be too firm, demon­strates over­con­fi­dence, or too weak, demon­strates nervousness.

It is proper busi­ness eti­quette to make your own intro­duc­tions if no one is intro­duc­ing you. Do not be overly aggres­sive or too shy good a rule of thumb is to approach the per­son or group, hold out your hand, say hello and give your name, com­pany and title. This addi­tional infor­ma­tion will help break the ice and help jump start the conversation.

After being intro­duced, con­tinue to use the person’s title (Mr., Dr., Pro­fes­sor, etc) until that per­son says oth­er­wise. Most peo­ple strug­gle with remem­ber­ing names, so by remem­ber­ing it, you are show­ing that per­son how impor­tant they are. Use what­ever mem­ory trick works for you to remem­ber the person’s name and then, if nec­es­sary, write it down after­wards. If you do for­get a name, it is ok to ask them to repeat it, but be apolo­getic and make a bet­ter attempt to remem­ber it the next time.

When you are mak­ing the intro­duc­tions, busi­ness eti­quette says

  • The most pow­er­ful per­son should be intro­duced first
  • Fol­low that with your clients, high level exec­u­tives, or spe­cial guests
  • Always use the person’s title when intro­duc­ing them

Fol­low­ing these steps will help all of your intro­duc­tions turn out pos­i­tively and as your busi­ness rolodex grows with con­tacts so will the oppor­tu­ni­ties for you to move up the cor­po­rate lad­der or land your dream job. Remem­ber it’s all about who you know.

Jules Hirst is a sought after speaker and a rec­og­nized eti­quette coach.
She con­ducts lec­tures, work­shops, sem­i­nars and webi­nars in busi­ness, social & wed­ding eti­quette. Jules co-author Power of Civil­ity where she shares strate­gies and tools for build­ing an excep­tional pro­fes­sional image.

Jules can be reached at: www.forajulproductions.com or 310−425−3160

German Manners Watchdog Says Kissing at Work Is Form of ‘Terrorism’

Workplace RomanceA Ger­man man­ners watch­dog was call­ing Thurs­day for a total ban on work col­leagues kiss­ing one another in the office, say­ing that the peck on the cheek is a form of “terrorism.”

The Knigge Soci­ety — Knigge trans­lates as eti­quette or cor­rect behav­iour — says the prac­tice has flour­ished in offices around Ger­many in recent years, with women kiss­ing women and men kiss­ing women, some­times even twice in the way of the French.

It says it has received wor­ried calls from Berlin, Munich and Dus­sel­dorf over recent months about what to do if some­one should attempt to kiss them in greeting.

Hans-Michael Klein, the chair­man of the group, said, “This is valid imme­di­ately. There should be no kiss­ing, at least not in the office.”

Klein explained, “The sus­pi­cion for many remains that there is, or may be, an erotic com­po­nent to the kiss­ing. Kiss­ing sim­ply gets on the nerves of many at work. It is a form of ter­ror. In busi­ness the hand­shake is con­sid­ered the cor­rect greet­ing rit­ual. Stand apart from one another approx­i­mately 60cm [24in] and shake.”

Any closer, he said, would be cross­ing over a “socially defined dis­tance zone.”

Klein added that, while he had respect for the French habit, and the Russ­ian one of men kiss­ing men, this was not the Ger­man way. He added that it was an affec­ta­tion of the so-called Schickim­icki set — the in-crowd.

Source:
Pub­lished August 10, 2011| NewsCore

WORK PLACE ETIQUETTE ~ CUBICLE WORLD

When giv­ing a work­shop on work­place pol­i­tics I am always asked to speak on Cubi­cle Eti­quette  So here is a list of things to keep in mind:

 Keep your pri­vate life private

  • If you are hav­ing a pri­vate con­ver­sa­tion either on the phone or with a co-worker step into a con­fer­ence room or go out­side. your cubi­cle neigh­bors don’t want or need to hear about your sen­si­tive matters

Don’t soil the air

  • what smells good to you may not smell good to your cubi­cle neighbors.
  • avoid using too much cologne or perfume
  • cer­tain foods give off unplea­sur­able aro­mas….  fish, hard broiled egg, cer­tain eth­nic foods use your break room

Dec­o­rate with taste

  • use good judg­ment and avoid things that are con­tro­ver­sial…. this includes things that are polit­i­cal, spir­i­tual, sen­sual or cultural

Respect thy co worker

  • try not lis­ten in on other peo­ples conversations
  • when walk­ing by another person’s cubi­cle try not to look in
  • avoid car­ry­ing on con­ver­sa­tions out­side of a co-workers cubicle
  • don’t chime in on other peo­ples conversations
  • give them the same respect as you would want

Jules Hirst is a sought after speaker and a rec­og­nized eti­quette coach. She con­ducts lec­tures, work­shops, sem­i­nars and webi­na­rs in busi­ness and social eti­quette. Jules co-author Power of Civil­ity where she shares strate­gies and tools for build­ing an excep­tional pro­fes­sional image.

Jules can be reached at: www.forajulproductions.com or 310−425−3160

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